Pick-Up Women and Increase Your Confidence, Step By Step
You never grow out of shyness. Instead, you learn how to deal with it. (Curing Shyness is one reason I created my Jewish Matchmaking blog, to give people FREE dating and pickup-success information!)
But when trying to pickup girls, shyness is a “deal killer”. I went from painfully-shy to successful Pickup Artist. (Yes, I ended up taking the “full tour” - from no girlfriends, to TOO MANY girlfriends! You can read all about that here on my jewish dating service blog - more on that later.)
So to begin with, I had to overcome my shyness in approaching women. To do this, you work with one small, step at a time...
(Since this article is in widespread circulation, I’ll just provide a shortened version here. The second part is only available here on my blog.)
Step 0: Before you start, find somewhere with lots & lots of women, where you can choose the women to actually approach.
Step 1: For example, the mall. Walk around and smile at every woman who walks by you. Do nothing more. She’ll most likely smile back.
Purpose: You want to get comfortable looking her in the eye and making “contact”.
Step 2: For this step, add saying “Hi”. Again, nothing more, just that. She’ll most likely smile, or say “Hi” back.
Purpose: You want to get comfortable saying something to her, (no matter how small).
Step 3: Ask for directions. Again, nothing more. Ask her how to find one of the mall’s stores. She’ll most likely be very helpful.
Purpose: You want to get comfortable having a conversation with her, (no matter how small).
Step 4: Have a REAL conversation with her. This is where most guys start getting anxious. So to get around that, we choose “easy pickings” - employees! They MUST talk with you - it’s their Job. (You can talk about anything current: weather, the local sports team, current music, etc.)
Purpose: You want to keep a conversation going with her, for at least 3 minutes.
Step 5: Have a Personal conversation with her. Stick with store staff, but move the conversation towards something about Her. (Pick anything interesting about her: her clothes, jewelry, accessories, footwear, accent, makeup, hairstyle, etc.)
Purpose: You want to get comfortable, talking to her... about HER.
Note: Flattery is a BAD pickup technique - but it’s great for just practicing talking to her.
Step 6: Same as Step 4, but with random women.
Step 7: Same as Step 5, but with random women.
Doing any of the Steps, 20 times, will make it so easy, it’s boring! You’ll get restless to move on to a further Step.
Once you’re comfortable approaching her, you’re ready for more advanced “moves” - like getting her contact information, getting the first date, getting physical, etc. You need to know more about attitude, body language - and yes, even great pickup lines!
To read how *I* learned all of this, be sure to check back here for my next article coming soon - with ALL the details! Or if you’re in a hurry, you can just read this...
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